Girl on Top: Your Guide to Turning Dating Rules into Career Success (Hardcover)

I just saw Nicole Williams on a show. Normally when I am flipping channels and stop on these type of shows, it is usually to just give the show and advice a raspberry. Her advice was solid. I didn't hear anything I disagreed with on the show.

That said, it almost means other people will disagree because I tend march to my own drummer. One thing she was stressed is that you do not give your talent away. That is compared to the old saying that you don't give the milk away for free. I don't like that advice in relationships but for jobs I think it is very true.

Almost all the mindless media encourages people to show what they can do by doing it for free first. That is bad advice. It devalues what you are doing. A boss never respects anyone who does extra stuff without a demanding a raise. That extra stuff just become part of your job description with little disrespect and even less reward.

My Advice: If a boss isn't willing to pay you what you are worth then you only do the what you are being paid for while you look for another job.

Another piece of advice is that you don't ever bad mouth your x because that just ends up reflecting on you. What were you doing with that jerk to start with. The same is true when reflecting on a past job. Even if it was a nightmare, you have to try to find something positive to say about the experience as you want to project that it made you a better person and not just a bitter person.

Another piece of advice is that you can't always be nice. That may sound like a terrible thing to say but in business it is true. If you don't learn that early on, you are just going to make yourself sick in dealing with people. I still tend to be nice when I need to turn into asshole Chuck but staying in nice mode too long never works. Once an associate or even customer thinks they can run over you then there is only one way the situation can end and that is badly. It is a bad feeling when after a situation has ended and you feel as though you've walked over and disrespected. Course, you have to use good judgement in when you need to lay the law down and when you need to just laugh the idiot off without raising the level of confrontation. That is the same as in any relationship.

In business, everyone wants to be friendly. But there comes a time when professional is more important than friendly. The same thing is true when dating goes from just fun to actually making life altering decisions. It may be awkward, but it is important not to be so blinded by the pretense of friendship that you make bad decisions or give trust when trust has not yet been fully earned.

Anyways, the book sounded really interesting.

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