Question: Is it wrong to cheat on a boyfriend?

Answer:

Simple Answer is yes, it is wrong. Not what you thought I'd say, is it?

Long Answer:

Never think you aren't going to get caught because the odds are, you will get caught. So the real question is do you want to hurt your boyfriend?

..................Maybe you want to get caught and that will show him. In that case you will risk hurting the person you are seeing behind his back as well as him.

..................Maybe you want to sneak around because you don't want to hurt him and you actually have feelings for the person you are thinking about seeing on the side. In that case, you are risking hurting him, your new guy, and probably yourself.

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Unless your boyfriend is abusive, which in that case get the hell away from him, you need to talk to him about the fact you are thinking about someone else. Discuss what is going wrong in your relationship that is making you want to "cheat." Be mature.

You can either agree to work things out. You can discuss having a "break" and seeing other people which is a God awful conversation and almost never works out the way either person wants. You can break up. Or you can agree to an open relationship which is where you see other people even while you continue to date each other.

If you don't want to break up with your boyfriend try to get him to provide you what in your fantasy you think the other guy might can provide. Bad to lose a boyfriend because you are having fantasies about someone who may turn out to be a total dickhead and nothing else.

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I am total for open relationships for people who can handle it. I am totally against cheating on someone. Let them know what the hell is going on in your fantasy world before you even think about trying to make your fantasy reality.

A good game for a couple to play is to go to a public place and people watch. Watching people you will most likely never meet, suggest to each other which ones you think would be hot as an alternative to yourself. Make up a personality for them. Suggest what they might be like in different situations including the bedroom. It is just a way to open conversation and deal with the fantasy of cheating in a more open way but without actually doing it. (Do not play this game with people that either of you know.)

Sex is easy. Relationships are work but that doesn't mean they aren't worth the work or even sacrifice; that is up to a point. All that said, sometimes the best way to handle a sexual fantasy is with masturbation and not let it go beyond that.